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I combine extensive leadership experience with a deep understanding of what truly guides people.

I am Kaija Alliksaar—a coach, trainer and development partner for individuals, leaders and teams.

I help people recognise what helps or prevents them from using their strengths and potential, and move towards greater clarity, self-trust and more conscious choices.

Kaija Alliksaar sitting outdoors with a laptop on her lap, one hand lifted to her hair

I did not arrive at this work through training alone. I came here through extensive leadership experience and my own life experience.

Coach · trainer · 15+ years of leadership experience

My story

I have seen, both at work and in my personal life, how someone can appear to cope well, meet their responsibilities, and achieve results, yet have long been operating on autopilot internally—moving forward more from habit, a sense of responsibility, and pressure than from conscious choice.

I worked for 21 years in an international company and spent more than 15 years leading people, teams, and service operations. I moved from an assistant role into management in less than two years and helped grow a small pilot team in Tallinn into an international service centre with more than 30 employees. I led up to 27 people and two team leaders, and part of the team was at one point based in Finland. During the same period, the company grew from a startup into an international corporation.

At one point in my working life, I came close to burnout. The main reason was not the amount of work but prolonged ambiguity. Expectations, responsibility, and my actual ability to influence outcomes were no longer aligned. Eventually, I felt that I could not continue in the same way.

Kaija Alliksaar in a white blouse among tall grasses and yellow flowers, hand raised, gaze lowered

There have also been periods in my life when I carried significant responsibility both at work and at home, raising two children largely on my own and trying to keep everything around me functioning. On the outside, I coped: the work got done, people were cared for, and the home stayed together. Internally, however, I was in a constant state of readiness.

I initially came to coaching because I wanted to become a better leader. I learned to truly listen, allow pauses, and ask questions that do not give people ready-made answers but help them hear their own. This changed both my leadership and the way I understand people and change.

I have seen, both as a leader and in my own life, how highly capable people cannot always use everything they have within them. Not because they lack skill or will, but because pressure, old roles, and habitual responses begin to guide them more than conscious choice.

MY GREATER MISSION

So that people do not settle for a smaller life than the one they truly want—and are capable of creating.

This does not mean that everyone should want to achieve more. It means that fear, tension, old roles or automatic patterns should not decide on a person's behalf how boldly they dare to choose, contribute, be visible or shape their life.

I want to help people draw more on what is already within them: clarity, self-trust, responsibility, creativity and the ability to make choices that genuinely suit them—in both their personal and professional lives.

My work connects

Leadership experience

A practical understanding of how to connect results, people development and team performance in a constantly changing work environment.

Teams and working conditions

How leadership, collaboration patterns, clarity, and working conditions affect people's ability to exercise their potential.

Self-leadership and patterns

What begins to guide the behaviour of an individual, leader or team when they consciously want to act differently.

Positive psychology

I look not only at what holds a person back, but also at what they want to build in its place: strengths, meaning, engagement, self-trust and greater well-being.

Identity and inner parts

Who a person has learned to think of themselves as and what internal parts try to protect them or want to move forward.

Practical application

Insight and practical tools that help new choices become part of everyday life, leadership and collaboration.

My approach

I do not see the individual or the team as a problem to be fixed. I look at patterns and habitual responses that once helped them cope, and help them notice whether those patterns still support movement in the desired direction.

We do not stop at understanding what has been. We also bring strengths, opportunities and the desired future into view, and create practical steps that help move towards it.

What does trauma awareness mean in my work?

In my work, a trauma-informed approach means that I do not treat a person's response as a flaw or weakness. We work at a safe pace, with clear boundaries and respect for the person's autonomy. In coaching and training, no one has to share more personal experience than they wish.

Trauma-informed coaching is not trauma diagnosis or treatment. I work within the scope of coaching and training and, when appropriate, recommend therapeutic or medical support.

Education and training

EducationEstonian Business School - Bachelor of Business Administration, BBA, 2000-2005
Certifications
Neuroscience Coach Certification - EfficientCoach.com, 2025
Trauma Informed Positive Psychology Practitioner - The School of Trauma Informed Positive Psychology, 2025, 30 ICF CCE units
Hypnotherapy Training - The Mental Wellbeing Company, 2025, 100 hours
Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching & Leadership Certification - The School of Trauma Informed Positive Psychology, 2023-2024, 40 ICF CCE units
Solution-Focused Coach Training "The Art and Science of Coaching" I-IV - Erickson Coaching International, 2017-2018, 128 ACSTH hours
High Performance Team Coaching - Erickson Coaching International, 2018, 21 hours, 14 ICF CCE units
Further training
Narcissistic Abuse Specialist - The School of Trauma Informed Positive Psychology, 2024, 80 hours, CPD
Foundations of Psychology - University of Tartu, 2020
Vaikuseminutid Mindfulness Course, 2019
LanguagesI work in Estonian, English and, if necessary, Finnish.

Let's see together what the next step could be.

If you are looking for support for yourself, start with a free 30-minute introductory call. If you would like to discuss support for a leader or team, we can find the right option for your organization together.